The anuptafobia is is specific phobia where the dreaded element lies in being single. A person suffering from this psychological disorder has an extremely high fear whenever he is exposed to his feared situation, that is, whenever he has no partner or thinks he might not have it.
In order to properly delimit this anxiety disorder, it is necessary to know exactly what qualities characterize the fear experienced.
In fact, all people can suffer from a certain fear of being single in many moments of our lives.
Especially in those moments when we end a relationship or start having problems with our partner, we can feel a certain fear of the idea of being alone and losing the company we have had for so long.
In the same way, in certain life stages that are related to commitment, having children or forming a family, we can also be more predisposed to get nervous at the idea of not having a person with whom to materialize these plans for the future.
However, as we have remarked, anuptaphobia goes beyond a simple fear of being single, so the fear experienced in this disorder must meet a number of characteristics.
1- It is disproportionate
The fear experienced in anuptaphobia is totally disproportionate to the demands of the situation.
This means that the individual suffering from this type of phobia will experience an extremely high fear, which does not respond to a situation that presents a real danger.
This first diagnostic aspect can be somewhat ambiguous since it is often difficult to define when the fear of not having a partner is disproportionate.
However, in general terms, this fear experienced with high sensations of terror can be considered as phobic.
2- It can not be explained or reasoned
The person suffering from anuptaphobia is not able to explain why he experiences sensations of fear so high at the idea of not having a partner.
In this way, although the individual can carry out logical reasoning about the other aspects of his life, it will be difficult to find explanations for the fear he experiences regarding his sentimental situation.
3- It is beyond voluntary control
The anuptophobic, like any other person who suffers from an anxiety disorder, is not able to control the feelings of fear that he suffers.
Fear seizes your mind and is not able to reduce or mitigate it no matter how hard you try to introduce opposing thoughts.
4- It leads to the avoidance of the feared situation
People who suffer from anuptaphobia will try to avoid by all means the situation they fear the most, that is, being single.
This manifestation of fear can be translated into obsessive behaviors of searching for a partner or high resistance to ending a relationship.
5- Persists over time
This alteration of anxiety does not appear in isolation or at specific moments, but remains with the passage of time.
Thus, while a person without anuptaphobia may experience fear of being single in delicate moments of his life, the individual suffering from this phobic disorder will present the fear of not having a partner constantly and permanently.
6- It is maladaptive
It is considered that the fear experienced by the person does not fulfill adaptive functions, that is, does not respond to a real danger or allows the individual to adapt adequately to their environment, rather the opposite.
How is anuptaphobia manifested?
As we have seen, anuptaphobia requires the experimentation of a concrete fear of the idea or reality of being single.
In this way, if you have a preference for having a partner, you do not feel comfortable when you do not have it but you do not experience a fear characterized by the 6 points that we have just commented, most likely you do not suffer from anuptaphobia.
However, often delimiting the properties of an emotion as intense and unpleasant as fear can be complicated.
In order to be able to distinguish anuptaphobia from non-pathological fear from being single, it is very clear to pay attention to the clinical characteristics of this disorder.
In general terms, three main areas that are altered by the presence of anuptaphobia can be defined: the physiological plane, the cognitive plane and the behavioral plane.
1- Physiological plan
Anuptaphobia involves a very high and extremely intense fear response.
This activation is characterized by the start-up of a whole set of physiological responses produced by an increase in the activity of the Central Nervous System (SNA).
The main responses are usually increased heart rate, increased breathing and sweating, muscle tension, pupillary dilation, dry mouth, and in some cases stomach pains, nausea and vomiting.
Thus, on a physical level it manifests itself through the same activation that people experience when we expose ourselves to an element that can be highly dangerous for our integrity.
2- Cognitive plane
In the cognitive plane, the individual suffering from anuptaphobia will display a whole series of beliefs about the feared situation, that is, the fact of not having a partner.
These beliefs are usually characterized by a series of negative attributes as well as pessimistic ideas about one’s ability to cope.
Thoughts such as I will never find a partner, I will always be alone, no one will love me or I will never be happy, they are some of those that can appear more frequently.
3- Behavioral plane
Finally, the last element that is fundamental to delimit the presence of anuptaphobia lies in the effect that fear has on the behavior and behavior of the person.
The fear, the fears and all the manifestations that we have commented so far directly affect the behavior of the individual.
This can vary in each case although the most common behaviors are usually resistance to separation, obsessive search of partner and behavior of pessimism or even depressive when you are single.
A sign of celotípia and dependence
As mentioned at the beginning of the article, the fear of not having a partner depends on many different factors, most of them referring to the personality characteristics of the individual.
In this way, very frequently, the anuptophobic ones have character traits characterized by dependence and celotypy.
The high fear to be single can give rise to behaviors and beliefs of dependence, since the person can think that he will only be well if he is with his partner and to deposit his stability in the permanence of the relation.
Likewise, the fear of losing the partner may lead to a series of behaviors and behaviors of jealousy, which would belong to the behavioral plane of the disorder.
The relationship between anuptaphobia, and dependence and celotypy can be done from both sides of the coin.
Thus, the fear of not having a partner can lead to feelings of dependency and lattice, in the same way that feelings of dependence and jealousy can lead to anuptaphobia.
In those individuals who witness these three responses, a thorough psychological study should be conducted to know the personality characteristics and the development of the pathology.
Causes of anuptaphobia
There are many factors that can influence when developing anuptaphobia.
It is argued that there is no single cause for this type of disorder and that its appearance depends on the conjunction of different factors, most of them environmental.
The most common are those that have to do with conditioning during the first stages of life.
Especially, suffering from traumatic experiences related to commitment and sentimental relationships such as having witnessed a bad separation of the parents can be important aspects.
Likewise, it is argued that obtaining verbal information during childhood can also be a relevant element.
Having been educated in an environment where an excess of importance is given to life as a couple, the fact of having children or the formation of a stable family can also predispose to the development of anuptaphobia.
The aforementioned personality traits such as dependence or low self-esteem are other risk factors that can lead to the appearance of the disorder.
Finally, it is agreed that the pressure and social rejection that exists on single elderly people may be factors that increase the prevalence of this disorder.
Why should anuptaphobia be treated?
Anuptaphobia is a disorder that can noticeably deteriorate people’s lives.
The individual with this disorder can be exposed to very high sensations and manifestations of anxiety, which can affect their behavior, their day to day, and especially their quality of life.
Furthermore, overcoming this alteration without the help of mental health professionals is practically impossible.
However, as with most specific phobias, the request for help from individuals with anuptaphobia is not common.
In fact, most people who seek psychological help to overcome their phobia do so by one of these three determinants:
- Something has changed in the patient’s life that makes the phobic stimulus acquire greater presence or relevance.
- A sudden event has caused certain fears appear that did not exist before and condition their current life.
- The person is tired of living with a certain fear and decides, by itself or influenced by third parties, to finally solve their problem.
Treatments for anuptaphobia
One of the most optimistic aspects of anuptaphobia is that it can be overcome and remitted if the appropriate interventions are applied.
In the treatment of this disorder, drugs are not usually used, except in those cases in which the anxiety response is extremely high and the use of anxiolytics is required for stabilization.
In this way, the main intervention that should be applied in anuptaphobia is psychotherapy.
Specifically, cognitive behavioral therapy can provide techniques that are effective for the treatment of anuptaphobia.
The technique of systematic desensitization, exposure in imagination, cognitive therapy and relaxation are the psychological treatments that are used most frequently in this type of alterations.
Through these techniques the patient is exposed to the feared elements and work is done to avoid the avoidance response, so that little by little the individual becomes accustomed to his fears and develops skills that allow him to face it.